21 JAN

The Mere Thought of Getting Married!

The mere thought of getting married,

Gets me goose bumps.

And a flashback of my whole life,

Occupies my mind.

My heart starts pounding,

And my body becomes numb.

I get a feeling of separation,

From you, from my parents and all the other relations.

Only to become Mrs From Miss,

I have to give up on all these.

Still, no one is able to guarantee,

That my face will always be lit up with glee.

In the middle of my life, I will have a whole new lot of people to be called as relatives,

And to learn their likes and dislikes will be my new motive.

If I will still be allowed to write, is what I wonder,

And ‘I doubt’ is what my heart prompts as the answer.

Life would be way different,

And things around would seem extremely uncertain.

I won’t have my mother to help me,

Like she had done for ages.

‘Mom, let me sleep’ won’t be a sentence available in my vocabulary,

Before anyone gets up, I would be seen patrolling in the gallery.

Waiting for him to get up and have his bed-tea,

And then running to get the breakfast ready.

Life will undergo a drastic change,

A change that would never change.

Responsibilities that I never took as a daughter,

Would be forced upon me, as a daughter-in-law.

My complaining mother will have nothing to nag about,

Seeing her daughter as punctual as a clock.

But mothers will always be mothers.

To protest on, she will still find reasons.

My feeling for daughters have always overpowered that for the son’s

But today I wish I was not born as one (daughter).

I may be contemplating,

And my life may take me to an alien but beautiful place.

But thinking is something I like,

And overthinking is what I enjoy.

A2fa ©

Post Author: Atoofa Khushnood

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15 thoughts on “The Mere Thought of Getting Married!”

    Amit

    (24th January 2017 - 11:44 pm)
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    Very insightful…And I quote “life is a box of chocolates, you never know what you gonna get “And probably that’s the beauty of it.well written 🙂

    prashi anand

    (22nd January 2017 - 3:41 pm)
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    Okayyyy so I would like say a lot mny things on ds mariage article…well marriages in India is a whole different concept if you compare it to the West…. West has many positive features inculcated in their lifestyle since the very beginning which gradually a developing country like India is absorbing… Marriages in India is a very hyped kinda ceremony…. If you marry….you gotta do it within an age limit…otherwise the whole community will see you as if you have just committed a crime by being more than 24 in age and not gtng married soon…. mariages for men is like a ‘cake walk’ ….coz nothing changes for them…in most of the cases they are settled….so their life just keeps on going ahead unaltered….infact they get an ‘Icing on da Cake’ when a women comes in….they get sexual satisfaction, taste bud satisfction and cleannines satisfaction….as to cooking, cleaning, ironing, and many other things has to be taken care by the women….. but has any one thought about what a girl goes through…. if not…now is the time to think,,, dnt u think so dear…. a whole lot of things changes for a girl..

    Just in a journey of becoming Mrs from Miss…she looses on to many things…she literally has to shft to a different location wid not just 1 eye full of expectations on her…but many (new family n relatives ). She is just a human being like the man she is gtng maried to….wen 2 ppl are marryng…why only the life of the girl changes….that too in a vast manner… cooking, cleaning n taking care of the whole family’s expectations n emotions becomes an add on to the job that she is continuing…. isnt it tooo tedious….

    My thot is why do gals marry…if u ask our elders they wil say security and a baby I guess…. now i think in this era security, , a self dependent girl can manage very well….and if its about a baby…then who said mariage is a must….. my point is….if you are not prepared for this drastic change and getting burdened by so many responsiilities…dnt marry…. even if your age is running fast…stil dont marry… even if you have a life partner in frnt of u…ready to marry you…bt you are not ready…dont marry…take ur time…its never too late…if ur elders say that if you marry late dn u wil face a problem in conceiving…tell dem what if I marry and conceive now n get divorced…that will be worst right….medical science n adoption method wil help u have a baby even in da later stages of ur life..is wat i think…. coz remember in India you are not marrying a single person…you are marrying a whole set of people and their expectations with a hell lot of duties where your simple life might seem to be lost…so question yourself several times as to are you ready to accept the changes that most probably wil come and you need it to dwell with that not just for few hours but for years to come….

      Atoofa Khushnood

      (22nd January 2017 - 3:43 pm)
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      Hmmmm..
      The thought itself gives me goosebumps.. 🙁

    Farida Alam

    (22nd January 2017 - 7:49 am)
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    Atoofa,.
    Beautifully expressed but this hw our life.This is first ever relationship which Allah created as Adam and Eve so not only daughters life changes the sons also get jammed between mother and wife they equally sacrifice share their room tolerate our relatives (over powering) and always ready for our happiness and wellness.
    So dear leaving parents are very painful but this is wat life is about …… so be happy and proud to be a daughter and Allah’s most beautiful first creation Adam and Eve.

    Archana waghnani

    (21st January 2017 - 11:36 am)
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    Wawoooo…. wonderful my dear..!

    Its very tough for every beautiful daughter to depart from family… a forever love…!

    I wish every single person should understand this and apply..Her’ s wish matters…! Its her life.

    The day this thing will get into mind… the day no daughter will cry on wedding day…

    Love you all ladies…mothers, daughters and daughter in laws… heads off !

    Keep doing atoofa… beautiful it is…

      Atoofa Khushnood

      (21st January 2017 - 11:39 am)
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      Thaks a lot sweetheart..
      Thank for your encouragement and love.. 🙂

        Archana waghnani

        (21st January 2017 - 11:42 am)
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        Most welcome…

    Abul Kalam

    (21st January 2017 - 11:16 am)
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    Though very thoughtful but I would like to disagree on the last portion where you stated ‘I wish I was not born as a daughter’. This phrase implies one’s weakness, and girls are not weak creature they are far stronger emotionally and mentally as compare to guys. One very good example is this thought provoking write up itself. It really needs sheer courage for someone to leave behind everything related to her life and move on with all sets of new people and new challenges every single day.

    So your whole write up shows the courageous side of a girl while in the end you lost the flow a little bit. That’s my honest opinion. No flattering. 🙂

    shayan

    (21st January 2017 - 10:46 am)
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    Amazing lines
    Gud work. . . .
    Loved it

    Hitesh

    (21st January 2017 - 10:26 am)
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    A great Artical by this Writer. I wish all the grooms must read and take a stand for their wives . ?

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